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It is possible that more people ask after the wellbeing of their friends, family and colleagues on R U OK? Day than at any other time during the year.
But what happens if the person being asked discloses they are, in fact, struggling?
The R U OK? website provides people with a series of steps to handle such sensitive conversations.
Listen without judgment
“Take what they say seriously and don't interrupt or rush the conversation,” the website says, explaining some people may need time to think about their response.
The person who starts the conversation can also show they have listened by repeating back what they have heard, asking if they have understood correctly.
Encourage action
The R U OK? website also lists several questions which might point the person battling poor mental health towards a solution, including:
- “What have you done in the past to manage similar situations?”
- “How would you like me to support you?"
- “What’s something you can do for yourself right now? Something that’s enjoyable or relaxing?”
- "When I was going through a difficult time, I tried this... You might find it useful too."
Check in
It is also recommended the troubled person be contacted again in couple of weeks, or sooner if they are really struggling.
“If they haven't done anything, don't judge them. They might just need someone to listen to them for the moment,” the R U OK? website says.
“Stay in touch and be there for them.
“Genuine care and concern can make a real difference.”
It’s alright to seek help
The R U OK? organisation recommends people who have felt down for more than a fortnight be encouraged to seek the help of a health professional.
Those who have initiated the conversation should be positive about the role of professionals in navigating tough times, its website says.
“You could say, ‘It might be useful to link in with someone who can support you. I'm happy to assist you to find the right person to talk to’.”
R U OK? provides website visitors with a directory of mental health services for those in need.
If you are in need of assistance with a mental health issue, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800. In an emergency, dial 000.