This time of lockdown can see many relationships thriving with an increase in quality time and less distractions from the outside world.
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For many others however it may have the opposite effect with increased pressure and magnification of existing conflicts.
This may include a breakdown in communication, frequent arguments, angry outbursts and avoidance.
Lifeline services often notice an increase of calls about relationship conflict following peak calendar events such as Christmas.
For many, these occasions can be stressful, impact finances, and involve close confinement with family for longer periods of time than usual.
It is not surprising then that COVID-19, which mirrors and significantly enhances many of these issues, is taking a toll on interpersonal relationships.
Increased strain, child care arrangements, financial stress, job instability and future uncertainty do have an impact.
It can result in couples having reduced tolerance, increased irritation and criticism towards each other and leave many questioning the future of their relationship.
It is normal to feel an intense array of emotions during such an unsettling time, including heightened irritability towards our partners.
On top of added pressures, most of us do not have the same access to the outlets that reduce our stress.
Team sports, gyms, social gatherings and solitude may not be available to us in the same way as they were before.
There are still ways we can get much of what we need, even during lockdown conditions.
Couples can collaborate and create new structures and boundaries that work for them, allowing for shared division of labour as well as breathing space to reduce friction.
This may include an agreement around shared home schooling and cooking.
Plan for separate time where you can talk to friends, do a puzzle, gardening or other activities that you find relaxing.
Plan quality time together, engaging in new activities such as board games, joint walks and movie nights.
Romance can still be achieved through letters, flowers, cooking for each other and making sure you still have fun together.
It's important to remember that while things are uncertain now, it will not remain like this forever.
It's crucial to engage in future planning together and be optimistic about what lies ahead.
Relationships can be challenging, even under optimal conditions.
The most important thing is to talk to your partner.
Communicate your feelings and be specific about what it is you need from each other.
It may not be a good time to make big relationships decisions and you may need to cut yourselves and each other some slack.
If conflict escalates, agree to walk away and come back to a conversation or situation when you are both calm and have had time to think.
It is important to remember that any form of violence or denigrating behaviour is not acceptable under any circumstances and if people are in this situation, they should seek help.
Support services for people in need are listed below:
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Centre for Non-Violence: 1800 884 292
Safe Steps family violence crisis: 1800 015 188
1800 RESPECT: 1800 737 732
Men's Referral Service: 1300 766 491
Rebecca Cornish is the chief executive of Lifeline Central Victoria and Mallee.