WENDY and Daniel Wiseman know all too well the pain associated with stillbirth.
The Bendigo couple’s hopes and dreams for their unborn child were dashed when they learned they would never feel his beating heart, see him smile or take his first steps.
“In 2011 we had a stillborn on October 25,” Ms Wiseman said.
“It was our fourth child, I’d had a miscarriage also in early February.
“I knew things weren't right the day before I went to the hospital because I wasn't getting any movement.
“I went up to the hospital and found out that he had passed away.”
Ms Wiseman said had to endure a natural birth – without the reward of holding new life in her arms.
“It was really hard to deal with knowing that he wasn't going to cry,” she said.
“We still got to hold him but it wasn't the same as holding a baby that cries.
“And he was so much smaller than a newborn baby.
“We named him Brook William and he’s buried at the Bendigo Cemetery.”
“It’s hard for people to get out and say, ‘I've had a stillborn,’” Ms Wiseman said.
“It can even be hard to talk about in your own family so it’s great to have a group like SANDS Bendigo.”
Ms Wiseman and her husband are members of SANDS Bendigo and attended the group’s second annual memorial service on Saturday.
They planned to visit Brook’s grave after the service.
About 30 people attend the SANDS Bendigo memorial service at the Bendigo Funeral Centre on Saturday.
Another participant, who did not wish to be named, traveled from Melbourne for the occasion.
The former Bendigo resident had a stillbirth 33 years ago.
"I was a 20-year-old uni student, I had a car accident, the doctor's didn't pick it up and I delivered her at home," she said.
"At the time you were told to go home, have another baby, get on with life and forget about it. You try to, but you don't and you learn to put up a wall."